So, I had a moment of true catharsis today. I talked to someone who had hurt me in my past. No matter how hard I tried, I couldn't be angry. I don't know if that's some fault of mine, that outside of the moment I can't nurse anger or hate. The more I think, the more I try and put myself in the other person's position, and the more that I end up forgiving that person, no matter the seriousness of the offense. Some might say that I'm weak because of this, but I think it takes true strength to swallow your pride. A lot of times pride makes you do things to balance the scales and you only end up hurting yourself.
When you purge yourself of anger and hatred, you end up with more empathy and understanding. It doesn't serve to try and make someone feel worse for something if they already feel horribly about it. At that point, any additional bad feelings you try and give them will just push the balance over into the red. Turning the other cheek really does help you to be able to get over something. Turns out that Jesus was on to something. If you don't continue to hurt others, then you break the cycle. Throughout the world, we see the problems that happen when people follow the doctrine of an eye for an eye. So, the next time that you feel someone has wronged you, instead of seeking to wrong them, try to forgive them, and embrace them. It breaks the cycle. Just try it, and see how good it feels.
This is so true. I totally agree with you. This also helps give the other person a chance to liaise with you and, in some way, bring the focus of what they had done back onto themselves (that they truly hurt you and now look here you are not hating). I would say it would promote a self-healing from withing and they in turn would spread it to someone who had hurt them but I can only hope as I well know forgiving isn't easy sometimes I think I forgive someone and I can talk to them, after all these years, and still find that after that conversation I'm slightly peeved but not at them but at myself for calling and trying to be nice... Hey thx for sharing this I enjoyed reading your writing style, I get bored of reading something that isn't interesting or captivating and you managed both in this blog.
ReplyDeleteIt wasn't only the way you wrote it, it was the nature of the message <3.